Thursday, July 17, 2014

Female Slut Shaming

Girls, Are You Sure She’s a Slut?


Women have been labeled as binaries by men and mostly other women too. We throw labels at them especially in this generation where she is free to be anything she wants to be and do what she wants to do. People label women as whores, sluts, demons, etc. And to be called a slut or to experience slut-shaming is the most common and most hurtful labels ever thrown upon a lady, causing a woman to be very conscious of whatever she does just to escape the pain of being gossiped as a slut. Is this even worth it?


According to There's No Such Thing as a Slut, Armstrong (as quoted by Khazan) tells us that there is little to no evidence that it has something to do with a girl’s sexual behavior. They did an experiment on how a woman can tell if someone is a slut or not. Based on their studies, they divided a group of women in a college university into two classes: the rich class and the poor class and examined them what to them is a slut. Armstrong found out that richer girls actually define a poor woman as a slut because of her “trashiness” or the inability to dress and behave like them, the upper middle class women. The poor group on the other hand regarded the richer ones as sluts for their mean attitude and rudeness towards them. They call them sluts for their attitude of bitchiness. Another trigger to call the upper ones as sluts is the fact that they get to hook up better with more men and are more sexual. See? It’s more of the character and an envious attitude that we women call other women sluts. 

“women were convinced that sluts exist” and worked to avoid the label… they seemed to be referring to some sort of acrophobia- a mythical slut.”“The term is so vague and slippery that no one knows what a slut was or no one knows what you have to do to be that. It circulated around, though, so everyone could worry about it being attached to them.”


We've experienced a lot of slut shaming ever since grade school and we all know how it hurts as hell. But we have to realize that at most times, it’s not always about you. It’s sometimes a pull down from people who are threatened and envious of what you are, what you can do, and achieve. 



Guys, Are You Sure She’s a Slut?

An article entitled Bro’s this is how Your Slut shaming is Backfiring. A sex researcher explains by Zhana Vrangalova tells us how society differs women from men when it comes to sex. A lot of how society sees men and women in sexual terms clearly shows how society’s prescribed gender roles and inequality affect us all, especially women. For example: It is okay for men to enjoy porn, while women who make it are nothing but sluts. Women are sluts if they sleep around while men are not. Men are even praised for doing so. Women who have sex and are called sluts are punished by society through degrading them as unacceptable. They should be corrected and they deserved to be mistreated. Men are permitted to devalue a woman in this case. Women are likely not to agree to have sex even if they want o because we have this notion that if they do, their nothing but whores. And lastly, according to a research done, almost everyone said yes if they’ll lose respect over a woman who already had sex (what more if for a couple times already) and little to none said they’d do the same over a man.




“For millennia, women have lived in environments that have made them dependent on men for survival and taught them to be sexually conservative. But when social and economic circumstances change to allow for greater female independence and freedom of sexual expression, gender differences in the desire for casual sex become less pronounced.”


We are very much aware of how we see and treat women as individuals who become dirty, useless sluts when they lose their virginity. Most men want to have sex with women and when they do, they see her as a slut afterwards. Is this a game of get-her-virginity-then-you-win and you get the chance to flaunt it to everyone causing her shame? Are women different individuals from men? Is this a sign of inequality still being treasured by society?

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